Jerry is the manager of a restaurant in America. He is always in a good
mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask
him how he was doing, he would always reply, "If I were any better,
I would be twins!"
Many of the waiters at his restaurant quit their jobs when he changed
jobs, so they could follow him around from restaurant to restaurant. The
reason the waiters followed Jerry was because of his attitude. He was
a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Jerry was always
there, telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.
Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Jerry
and asked him, "I don't get it! No one can be a positive person all
of the time. How do you do it?"
Jerry replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, I have
two choices today. I can choose to be in a good mood or I can choose to
be in a bad mood. I always choose to be in a good mood. Each time something
bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from
it. I always choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining,
I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive
side of life. I always choose the positive side of life."
"But it's not always that easy," I protested.
"Yes, it is," Jerry said "Life is all about choices. When
you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how
you react to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood.
You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. It's your choice how you
live your life."
Several years later, I heard that Jerry accidentally did something you
are never supposed to do in the restaurant business: left the back door
of his restaurant open one morning and was robbed by three armed men.
While trying to open the safe, his hand, shaking from nervousness slipped
off the combination. The robbers panicked and shot him. Luckily, Jerry
was found quickly and rushed to the hospital. After 18 hours of surgery
and weeks of intensive care, Jerry was released from the hospital with
fragments of the bullets still in his body. I saw Jerry about six months
after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied, "If
I were any better, I'd be twins. Want to see my scars?" I declined
to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the
robbery took place.
"The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have
locked the back door," Jerry replied. "Then, after they shot
me, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could
choose to live or choose to die. I chose to live."
"Weren't you scared?" I asked. Jerry continued, "The
paramedics were great. They kept telling me. I was going to be fine. But
when they wheeled me into the Emergency Room and I saw the expressions
on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their
eyes, I read 'He's a dead man.' I knew I need to take action." "What
did you do?" I asked. "Well, there was a big nurse shouting
questions at me," said Jerry. "She asked if I was allergic to
anything." 'Yes,' I replied. The doctors and nurses stopped working
as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, 'Bullets!'
Over their laughter, I told them, 'I am choosing to live. Please operate
on me as if I am alive, not dead'."
Jerry lived, thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of
his amazing attitude. I learned from him that every day you have the choice
to either enjoy your life or to hate it. The only thing that is
truly yours that no one can control or take from you is your attitude,
so if you can take care of that, everything else in life becomes much
easier.